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To be honest I have my own imagination I don't need porn. Don't get me wrong it's good when need be but it's not the be all and end all
 
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Cheekylad1988 said:
Very scientific answer, I'm just wandering how I get my partner to watch porn with me!!! X
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In terms of asking her...you should try and find out if she likes porn, and what kinds she enjoys. Men and women tend to have rather different taste in terms of what kind of film is exciting. If it is a new topic between you, you might try introducing her to some sensual pornographic gifs. Not explicit ones, but gentle/erotic ones. you may find it has much better effect to get her excited to play with you.

A lot depends on her tastes, how well the two of you communicate, how well you know her.

I once agreed to watch a pornographic film with a former partner. It was one that he chose, and that he enjoyed. But after about 5 or 10 minutes, he switched it off. He realized that some porn is for watching alone:D it lead to a really good conversation about the film/images/things we like or want or want to try. But the reality of watching a film he likes together was that he ended up embarrassed. While it was eye opening for me, it was not a turn on at all. (although...if i recall...his vulnerability in that moment was...i think a fairly good cuddle session ensued)
 
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Firefly said:
In terms of asking her...you should try and find out if she likes porn, and what kinds she enjoys. Men and women tend to have rather different taste in terms of what kind of film is exciting. If it is a new topic between you, you might try introducing her to some sensual pornographic gifs. Not explicit ones, but gentle/erotic ones. you may find it has much better effect to get her excited to play with you.

A lot depends on her tastes, how well the two of you communicate, how well you know her.

I once agreed to watch a pornographic film with a former partner. It was one that he chose, and that he enjoyed. But after about 5 or 10 minutes, he switched it off. He realized that some porn is for watching alone:D it lead to a really good conversation about the film/images/things we like or want or want to try. But the reality of watching a film he likes together was that he ended up embarrassed. While it was eye opening for me, it was not a turn on at all. (although...if i recall...his vulnerability in that moment was)
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Yeah she just doesn't like me looking at other women, I get grief saying hello to people I know
 
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Cheekylad1988 said:
Yeah she just doesn't like me looking at other women, I get grief saying hello to people I know
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that doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. You might want to consider that carefully.

If she doesn't like you looking at other women, I recommend gay porn. Many women enjoy it. If she is such a lady it might get her well excited. And she doesn't have to worry about you ogling other ladies.
 
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that doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship. You might want to consider that carefully.

If she doesn't like you looking at other women, I recommend gay porn. Many women enjoy it. If she is such a lady it might get her well excited. And she doesn't have to worry about you ogling other ladies.
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Yeah but that means me watching it with her??
 
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Everyone looks at the opposite sex. To many it's natural. It doesn't allways mean anything but understandably it can have concerns for the other partner. Doesn't matter what gender etc etc anyone is
 
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Cazz said:
Everyone looks at the opposite sex. To many it's natural. It doesn't allways mean anything but understandably it can have concerns for the other partner. Doesn't matter what gender etc etc anyone is
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I'm just worried about getting a hard on watching it! That would cause problems hahaha
 
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Cheekylad1988 said:
Yeah she just doesn't like me looking at other women, I get grief saying hello to people I know
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Honestly after being in such a relationship for many years not looking at other women turns into not talking to them turns into not going out alone just incase and snowballs into not being able to make a decision without consulting. And a whole lot worse
Just speaking from personal experience.
Have an open honest discussion maybe she doesn't know how you feel.
 
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