Dear Mrs/Mr admin

[Alex231993]

In the however long of a time I've been a member on this weird and wonderful site, the post have got more disrespectful about wives/girlfriends of members on here. Surely if the wives/girlfriends wanted photos of their private parts on here they'd post them themselves. Not some scum partner who quite simply wants ego points to hopefully boost their own self worth. I'm sure the actual people on here would agree with me

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

The problem is how do you know they are not posting with consent ? We have no way of proving one way or the other.

 

[Alex231993]

"Post Your Pics" not "Post Pics Of Other People"

 

[Alex231993]

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[Alex231993]

Lilvin, last bloke who posted has happily posted photos of someone else but has't even got a profile photo.
That is just total disrespectful to her and to women in general.

 

[GLennUK]

In the however long of a time I've been a member on this weird and wonderful site, the post have got more disrespectful about wives/girlfriends of members on here. Surely if the wives/girlfriends wanted photos of their private parts on here they'd post them themselves. Not some scum partner who quite simply wants ego points to hopefully boost their own self worth. I'm sure the actual people on here would agree with me

I agree, its easy to make cheap comments about ones wife/partner and post photos of a partner who has no idea theyre being posted online. Ironically, i think that its likley that criminal charges could be brought if they come to light and the subject is unhsppy.

 

[midas]

most of the guest guys posting females pics are without consent and they will tell you that openly

 

[Alex231993]

The problem is how do you know they are not posting with consent ? We have no way of proving one way or the other.

Is that really all what the staff can say?

 

[GLennUK]

The problem is how do you know they are not posting with consent ? We have no way of proving one way or the other.

Out of curiosity, do you know if the 'forum' could be considered a publisher?

 

[midas]

easy solution , guest males cannot post female pics or require to have a couples profile

 

[Alex231993]

The females maybe getting abused and may be too frightened not to give consent to post photos

 

[Stretchit]

The pictures I post are mostly found on the internet, I do have pictures of previous partners but I don’t post them on the internet because they sent them to me in trust I won’t flash them about. I take pleasure in that, some days I’d message them asking what panties they were wearing that day and they’d say crotchless and I’d get a sneaky peak at her lips poking through a nice red set or they’d say just got out of the shower and not wearing anything and get a good full nude. Sexy pictures for me to look back on, either way I won’t post them it’s not fair on them.

 

[GLennUK]

The females maybe getting abused and may be too frightened not to give consent to post photos

Genuine consent is a whole other world.

 

[Firefly]

This is an interesting discussion.
The issue of consent and ownership, copyright and etiquette. Especially when creating connections in an anonymous free space.
I agree deception is rude and uncalled for. Falling into a fantasy is great fun, a relaxing escape and a great way to practice in a safe space something you may want to build into a reality. Or confirm that you don't actually want in your life.

Pretending to be someone you are not can help you learn how to become someone you want to be. It might seem odd that someone wants to become an abusive misogynistic creep, but that may simply be an extreme they need to explore to find that sweet spot where they can find greater agency or assertiveness in their own lives, to get to a place where they feel comfortable talking about things they need and want and desire and have realistic vision of how to realize those things in life. Sometimes extreme behaviour is needed to get access to the people or information that you need to move forward with your own life.

As for @Lilvin . The woman in his photos is very clearly posing for a known photographer. Thus, is probably aware of and consenting to the consequences of posing. [I think this is different from a selfie sent to a lover, where you are your own photographer and only consenting that your lover see that image... @Stretchit (i hope you one day let go of those images and move forward with your life) ] Much of her behaviour in the photos suggests an exhibition kink. But while we won't know without their input (have you asked him directly?).

The fact is there are people who genuinely enjoy such exhibitionism. There are women (and men) who enjoy their partners sharing them/showing them off. And there are people who genuinely enjoy being degraded/used (whether in reality or simply as part of fantasy play that happens in a faceless space like this). They are a minority, who may find it difficult to find safe spaces to explore this about themselves.

Which is why, often in a space like this, if a thread or photo or behaviour isn't violating the terms of use (see link if in doubt). Then you should probably just walk on by. And if it is in violation...then REPORT it post haste.

Most people share things they have found on google/yandex/bing or various other search engines...or they share content they consider their own.

It is really good to have this discussion about model consent. When you take a photo of someone else, whose photo is that? Who has rights on how that photo is shared or distributed? This goes beyond sex chat sites and into social media, family whats app groups and even conventional media. There are certainly new stronger laws coming into effect in the UK regarding model consent. If you find content that seems criminal (not just objectionable according to your personal moral compass), report it. If you are unsatisfied with how the volunteer staff at this site handle your reports, take it to your local police authority.

If a behaviour is harmless, walk on by. If it is harmful, reach out to this person they may be in need of help and not know how to ask. If it is illegal, report it.

Otherwise, circus rules apply. (Work hard. Be safe. Have fun. Be kind.)

 

[Firefly]

my apologies for the essay.
I may have been drinking coffee.

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

Is that really all what the staff can say?

What would you suggest then please ? How can you categorically prove that a pic has been posted either with or without permission ? Revenge porn is currently illegal in the UK, and the laws around postings on social media etc are going to be tightened up soon, as legislation is going through parliament. The problem then will be the policing of it and literally how the UK police will have the resources and time to cope with all the reports and accusations. We already know that most pics/gifs that are posted are taken from porn or adult sites, except for those pics taken by the chatter themselves. All staff, Admins and moderators are volunteers, this is not a job. We all have our own lives and give some of our free time to help the site run and see that the rules and TOU are adhered to. We can't just act on hunches or speculation. We need solid proof or evidence for any action we take. I'm sure you must agree that is the only fair way, as some people do make false allegations. Would it be fair to penalise or ban someone with no proof ?

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

Out of curiosity, do you know if the 'forum' could be considered a publisher?

A publisher in what legal sense ? Please read our full terms of use, as that details the rules and responsibilities of the site.

 

[GLennUK]

A publisher in what legal sense ? Please read our full terms of use, as that details the rules and responsibilities of the site.

With respect, whether you are a publisher or not in a legal sense, has no bearing on what your terms say or do not say.

If legally, by allowing content to be posted on your site you become a publisher (twitter have been wrestling with this same issue), then you cannot simply avoid being such that by saying 'were' not, the determination would be a legal one.

I was merely curious to know whether the admins knew or not.

 

[GLennUK]

This is an interesting discussion.
The issue of consent and ownership, copyright and etiquette. Especially when creating connections in an anonymous free space.
I agree deception is rude and uncalled for. Falling into a fantasy is great fun, a relaxing escape and a great way to practice in a safe space something you may want to build into a reality. Or confirm that you don't actually want in your life.

Pretending to be someone you are not can help you learn how to become someone you want to be. It might seem odd that someone wants to become an abusive misogynistic creep, but that may simply be an extreme they need to explore to find that sweet spot where they can find greater agency or assertiveness in their own lives, to get to a place where they feel comfortable talking about things they need and want and desire and have realistic vision of how to realize those things in life. Sometimes extreme behaviour is needed to get access to the people or information that you need to move forward with your own life.

As for @Lilvin . The woman in his photos is very clearly posing for a known photographer. Thus, is probably aware of and consenting to the consequences of posing. [I think this is different from a selfie sent to a lover, where you are your own photographer and only consenting that your lover see that image... @Stretchit (i hope you one day let go of those images and move forward with your life) ] Much of her behaviour in the photos suggests an exhibition kink. But while we won't know without their input (have you asked him directly?).

The fact is there are people who genuinely enjoy such exhibitionism. There are women (and men) who enjoy their partners sharing them/showing them off. And there are people who genuinely enjoy being degraded/used (whether in reality or simply as part of fantasy play that happens in a faceless space like this). They are a minority, who may find it difficult to find safe spaces to explore this about themselves.

Which is why, often in a space like this, if a thread or photo or behaviour isn't violating the terms of use (see link if in doubt). Then you should probably just walk on by. And if it is in violation...then REPORT it post haste.

Most people share things they have found on google/yandex/bing or various other search engines...or they share content they consider their own.

It is really good to have this discussion about model consent. When you take a photo of someone else, whose photo is that? Who has rights on how that photo is shared or distributed? This goes beyond sex chat sites and into social media, family whats app groups and even conventional media. There are certainly new stronger laws coming into effect in the UK regarding model consent. If you find content that seems criminal (not just objectionable according to your personal moral compass), report it. If you are unsatisfied with how the volunteer staff at this site handle your reports, take it to your local police authority.

If a behaviour is harmless, walk on by. If it is harmful, reach out to this person they may be in need of help and not know how to ask. If it is illegal, report it.

Otherwise, circus rules apply. (Work hard. Be safe. Have fun. Be kind.)

I take your point about whether harm is being done, its an interesting issue, consent and whether it is or can be given freely depending on the specifics of any particular relationship.

I have never posted images of a partner online, they dont know im here so they cannot give consent and to be frank, im not going to ask but thats just me. Others will no doubt have entirely different relationships with the subjects of their images.

 

[Stretchit]

This is an interesting discussion.
The issue of consent and ownership, copyright and etiquette. Especially when creating connections in an anonymous free space.
I agree deception is rude and uncalled for. Falling into a fantasy is great fun, a relaxing escape and a great way to practice in a safe space something you may want to build into a reality. Or confirm that you don't actually want in your life.

Pretending to be someone you are not can help you learn how to become someone you want to be. It might seem odd that someone wants to become an abusive misogynistic creep, but that may simply be an extreme they need to explore to find that sweet spot where they can find greater agency or assertiveness in their own lives, to get to a place where they feel comfortable talking about things they need and want and desire and have realistic vision of how to realize those things in life. Sometimes extreme behaviour is needed to get access to the people or information that you need to move forward with your own life.

As for @Lilvin . The woman in his photos is very clearly posing for a known photographer. Thus, is probably aware of and consenting to the consequences of posing. [I think this is different from a selfie sent to a lover, where you are your own photographer and only consenting that your lover see that image... @Stretchit (i hope you one day let go of those images and move forward with your life) ] Much of her behaviour in the photos suggests an exhibition kink. But while we won't know without their input (have you asked him directly?).

The fact is there are people who genuinely enjoy such exhibitionism. There are women (and men) who enjoy their partners sharing them/showing them off. And there are people who genuinely enjoy being degraded/used (whether in reality or simply as part of fantasy play that happens in a faceless space like this). They are a minority, who may find it difficult to find safe spaces to explore this about themselves.

Which is why, often in a space like this, if a thread or photo or behaviour isn't violating the terms of use (see link if in doubt). Then you should probably just walk on by. And if it is in violation...then REPORT it post haste.

Most people share things they have found on google/yandex/bing or various other search engines...or they share content they consider their own.

It is really good to have this discussion about model consent. When you take a photo of someone else, whose photo is that? Who has rights on how that photo is shared or distributed? This goes beyond sex chat sites and into social media, family whats app groups and even conventional media. There are certainly new stronger laws coming into effect in the UK regarding model consent. If you find content that seems criminal (not just objectionable according to your personal moral compass), report it. If you are unsatisfied with how the volunteer staff at this site handle your reports, take it to your local police authority.

If a behaviour is harmless, walk on by. If it is harmful, reach out to this person they may be in need of help and not know how to ask. If it is illegal, report it.

Otherwise, circus rules apply. (Work hard. Be safe. Have fun. Be kind.)

I’m confused at your response to me, haha.
1, I’m straight and a bloke so I’d ask a woman which would be her not him.
2, the photos are recent not kept on my phone for years on end. I was just saying in general If I get sent images of woman who I’m sexually active with I’m not going to post them online…