Sexless Marriage - How Do You Cope?

[Burton80]

Hi All,

For those that are horny but in a sexless marriage what do you do and how do you cope? I’m a guy mid 40’s and have been a sexless marriage for around 5 years which is really difficult but can’t seperate, we have kids

So how do you cope and what do you do to get your release? We all need to have a sexual release ( well apart from my other half it would seem

Any advice would be welcome - Thanks

 

[dicusdiminutivus]

You are far from alone, but for those of my vintage, we don't mind being called old wankers, it's the truth.

Seriously, talk, cuddle, retain physical and mental contact, try to understand why, and in extremis seek external help and advice as a couple.

 

[Shelt60]

Hi All,

For those that are horny but in a sexless marriage what do you do and how do you cope? I’m a guy mid 40’s and have been a sexless marriage for around 5 years which is really difficult but can’t seperate, we have kids

So how do you cope and what do you do to get your release? We all need to have a sexual release ( well apart from my other half it would seem

Any advice would be welcome - Thanks

Hi there my sexless marriage is down to myself 2009 was in fatal accident and through that with medication started putting me off sex, then in 2019 after loosing my mother I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes now on 8 tablets a day I have totally lost my erge for sex when I did try to wank it was so quick I got so frustrated I took it out on my wife verbally not violent

 

[dicusdiminutivus]

@Shelt60 Understandable given that brief history, I do hope you have been able to access professional help, such traumas are not easy for even the most macho of people to cope with alone.

 

[MancJackTheLad]

Hi All,

For those that are horny but in a sexless marriage what do you do and how do you cope? I’m a guy mid 40’s and have been a sexless marriage for around 5 years which is really difficult but can’t seperate, we have kids

So how do you cope and what do you do to get your release? We all need to have a sexual release ( well apart from my other half it would seem

Any advice would be welcome - Thanks

Similar situation, in a very loving and caring relationship, but no sex due to complicated reasons. I get my kicks on chats, caming and the odd 1:1 wank meet although only with like-minded dudes. It really helps and having a saucy secret where no one get hurts keeps life exciting.

 

[Shelt60]

@Shelt60 Understandable given that brief history, I do hope you have been able to access professional help, such traumas are not easy for even the most macho of people to cope with alone.

I did get professional help but with the tablets I take they did say that I might lose my sex drive and have erectile disfunction now with diabetes tablets im totally zero

 

[Loulibell79]

Hi All,

For those that are horny but in a sexless marriage what do you do and how do you cope? I’m a guy mid 40’s and have been a sexless marriage for around 5 years which is really difficult but can’t seperate, we have kids

So how do you cope and what do you do to get your release? We all need to have a sexual release ( well apart from my other half it would seem

Any advice would be welcome - Thanks

Hey

It’s been 8 years for me, I had a good friend who came to my rescue recently as I was so depressed from feeling so unwanted so he “sorted me out” as it were. I would say it’s worse as a woman but obviously I don’t really know that, I just feel like most men would be quite happy to have sex with their wives and mine husband just doesn’t!

 

[dicusdiminutivus]

@Loulibell79 It can indeed be the obverse of the male whinge: some 28 years ago I suffered from viral prostitis (that's what the medics called it, AKA we don't really know) as a result, my feeling is that there where other endocrinological unexplored effects, and, over time ED became a reality, I would start to lose an erection whilst physically involved in vaginal intercourse, so would rush to ejaculate — selfish bastard! — which led to probably increasing dissatisfaction, on both sides. I thus do not question my wife's response of 'I can't be bothered', in part or whole it might be down to me!

 

[beltmaster]

Hi All,

For those that are horny but in a sexless marriage what do you do and how do you cope? I’m a guy mid 40’s and have been a sexless marriage for around 5 years which is really difficult but can’t seperate, we have kids

So how do you cope and what do you do to get your release? We all need to have a sexual release ( well apart from my other half it would seem

Any advice would be welcome - Thanks

You really have to talk. If it is the case she refuses to. You have to ask her to go with you to counselling. And if the answer is no. Then you really need to make your point. The longer it is like this. The harder it will become

 

[beltmaster]

You really have to talk. If it is the case she refuses to. You have to ask her to go with you to counselling. And if the answer is no. Then you really need to make your point. The longer it is like this. The harder it will become

My marriage has been sexless for quite a while now. But that is the fault of the hospital when she had our son. They made a real cock up.
She did not see our son for 5 days after having
Him. She nearly died because of it. Those 5 days
Where spent in ICU

 

[Shelt60]

My marriage has been sexless for quite a while now. But that is the fault of the hospital when she had our son. They made a real cock up.
She did not see our son for 5 days after having
Him. She nearly died because of it. Those 5 days
Where spent in ICU

My heart goes out for you both hopefully all well now

 

[Shelt60]

Hey

It’s been 8 years for me, I had a good friend who came to my rescue recently as I was so depressed from feeling so unwanted so he “sorted me out” as it were. I would say it’s worse as a woman but obviously I don’t really know that, I just feel like most men would be quite happy to have sex with their wives and mine husband just doesn’t!

I've been sexless over 15 years now since a accident which the other driver got killed and when I seen what happened it changed my life straight away I had councilling and so many visits to mental health I lost all sexual not even get erected to play

 

[beltmaster]

I've been sexless over 15 years now since a accident which the other driver got killed and when I seen what happened it changed my life straight away I had councilling and so many visits to mental health I lost all sexual not even get erected to play

Thank you. For those kind words. Luckily she
Is still with us. And she is mobile.
But she has a lot of things going on.
It as I am sure you know can be very hard.
Sometimes. As life seems to pass by very quickly. And we are all trying to make the best of it.

 

[beltmaster]

I've been sexless over 15 years now since a accident which the other driver got killed and when I seen what happened it changed my life straight away I had councilling and so many visits to mental health I lost all sexual not even get erected to play

I can't imagine how that must feel. But my heart goes out to you. And I do hope you can find
Away to get over this.
Colin

 

[beltmaster]

Hey

It’s been 8 years for me, I had a good friend who came to my rescue recently as I was so depressed from feeling so unwanted so he “sorted me out” as it were. I would say it’s worse as a woman but obviously I don’t really know that, I just feel like most men would be quite happy to have sex with their wives and mine husband just doesn’t!

I don't think there is a lot of difference sexual
Wise between men and women in regards to wanting sex. Like some men there are some
Women. That sex is not that important to them.
Then there is people like ourselves that find it
An integral part of our lives.
Myself I think that we try to think to much of
The of what we can get from a relationship.
Things like stability security loyalty. Witch Is something most of us seek.
But dose that then. Override our passion are animal instincts. To want to rip the pants or knickers off someone and have a really good fuck. Things that are part of our genetic make up. There has to be some rules that apply. Age. Consent
And where and when. I understand
Relationships are more than sex.
Alone. But for some of us it is important part of our lives