FranklyImprobable
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Physically, I'm unextraordinary. Tall, not athletic... non-smoker, no piercings, tattoos -etc. - modern glasses and a watch. I try to avoid logos and branding. I'm single, heterosexual, never married and have neither a partner nor children. I am drawn to intelligence and hope I can distinguish that from intellectual pretence. Philosophy, psychology and non-trivial puzzles are among my amateur interests. I can't muster any enthusiasm for sport... and my knowledge of (and skill with) music lets me down. Psychologists (including Jung) would class me as "introverted", "intuitive" and "thinking" - which aligns with my self-image and life experiences to date.
I am not really into the explicit photos that get posted here. Perhaps I'm an aniconist - I've never gone as far as full iconoclasm. I'm not a prude - but I think a self-description is more revealing (and more exciting) than any photo. I value my privacy - especially online - so don't post photos of myself. I'm aware that this is starkly at odds with today's swipe culture. I am interested in practical technology - but I also relish anachronisms. Appearances matter - but they matter most in person (rather than in videos and photos...) like in the olden days.
I previously tried dating websites - but they feel strangely misaligned with anything that feels real. I've realised that I've unfulfilled desires - many kinks. I've read about (some interpretations of) BDSM. I'm apprehensive about S&M - some of those heavy-duty ideas are vile - and do not appeal. Similarly, I'm not drawn to large age gaps. I found girls appealing from a very young age - but I've been a grown-up for quite some time - and I want similar in a partner. I am drawn to playful power-exchange... both physical and psychological. I think I'd be described as a 'switch'. To be more specific - I imagine experiencing both roles with a single partner. I like the idea that knowing both experiences should lead to more intimate empathy - and evolving boundaries. Having to think about both roles feels more deliberate - which appeals to me, a lot. The thinking bit matters.
While I'm not experienced, example fantasies of mine:
- Dominant active, detailed, control over exactly what my partner wears (ranging from the mundane to revealing and restrictive).
- Meeting my partner - having previously shared no photos or video - after our best efforts to describe ourselves and our desires, in writing, in detail, to each other (there's only ever one chance to meet someone for a first time).
- Unusual atmospheric locations... quiet deserted libraries; hill-tops; secluded lakes and streams; forests; outdoor open spaces during thunderstorms; castles and gothic architecture buildings - etc.
- Playing an otherwise nerdy game (perhaps Scrabble, Chess or Othello - or relying upon chance some other way) to decide who takes responsibility for dominance - and who for submission... for a negotiated duration... taking it extremely seriously.
I don't think introverted means I'm shy - though a shy woman would likely be very attractive to me. The verdict might be out on whether my intuition is well tuned. I am single - but I know neither where my escapade here will ultimately lead.. nor, even, what exactly I hope to be the outcome. The pragmatist in me presumes it will probably not go anywhere... but, if I didn't post this, I couldn't be sure.
I'm open to advice, questions, reprimand and suggestions. Of course, if you're a woman... who might be looking for the man behind this quirky caricature... I'd love to hear from you... and... perhaps... to correspond?
I am not really into the explicit photos that get posted here. Perhaps I'm an aniconist - I've never gone as far as full iconoclasm. I'm not a prude - but I think a self-description is more revealing (and more exciting) than any photo. I value my privacy - especially online - so don't post photos of myself. I'm aware that this is starkly at odds with today's swipe culture. I am interested in practical technology - but I also relish anachronisms. Appearances matter - but they matter most in person (rather than in videos and photos...) like in the olden days.
I previously tried dating websites - but they feel strangely misaligned with anything that feels real. I've realised that I've unfulfilled desires - many kinks. I've read about (some interpretations of) BDSM. I'm apprehensive about S&M - some of those heavy-duty ideas are vile - and do not appeal. Similarly, I'm not drawn to large age gaps. I found girls appealing from a very young age - but I've been a grown-up for quite some time - and I want similar in a partner. I am drawn to playful power-exchange... both physical and psychological. I think I'd be described as a 'switch'. To be more specific - I imagine experiencing both roles with a single partner. I like the idea that knowing both experiences should lead to more intimate empathy - and evolving boundaries. Having to think about both roles feels more deliberate - which appeals to me, a lot. The thinking bit matters.
While I'm not experienced, example fantasies of mine:
- Dominant active, detailed, control over exactly what my partner wears (ranging from the mundane to revealing and restrictive).
- Meeting my partner - having previously shared no photos or video - after our best efforts to describe ourselves and our desires, in writing, in detail, to each other (there's only ever one chance to meet someone for a first time).
- Unusual atmospheric locations... quiet deserted libraries; hill-tops; secluded lakes and streams; forests; outdoor open spaces during thunderstorms; castles and gothic architecture buildings - etc.
- Playing an otherwise nerdy game (perhaps Scrabble, Chess or Othello - or relying upon chance some other way) to decide who takes responsibility for dominance - and who for submission... for a negotiated duration... taking it extremely seriously.
I don't think introverted means I'm shy - though a shy woman would likely be very attractive to me. The verdict might be out on whether my intuition is well tuned. I am single - but I know neither where my escapade here will ultimately lead.. nor, even, what exactly I hope to be the outcome. The pragmatist in me presumes it will probably not go anywhere... but, if I didn't post this, I couldn't be sure.
I'm open to advice, questions, reprimand and suggestions. Of course, if you're a woman... who might be looking for the man behind this quirky caricature... I'd love to hear from you... and... perhaps... to correspond?
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