Failure...

[seejay76]

Split up my my wife over a year ago and completely failed to get any since.

Never exactly been great at getting the ladies but jeezo it's just demoralising. I know I'm hardly (insert whoever ladies think is hot these days here), but you'd think SOMEBODY would want some somewhere?

I've tried dating and hookup sites with no avail... Sent loads of messages without reply and the one that did was a sextortionist! (Apparently laughing at them and tell them you don't give a shit puts them off...)

But really, come on...why is it this hard??? (That's what she said, etc)

 

[jonnya]

think its the pandemic that's still putting people off. perhaps you need to chat to them and have fun and then see if any ladies like you for who you are.

 

[seejay76]

But you can't chat to them if they never reply to you...

 

[SussexGuy47]

Split up my my wife over a year ago and completely failed to get any since.

Never exactly been great at getting the ladies but jeezo it's just demoralising. I know I'm hardly (insert whoever ladies think is hot these days here), but you'd think SOMEBODY would want some somewhere?

I've tried dating and hookup sites with no avail... Sent loads of messages without reply and the one that did was a sextortionist! (Apparently laughing at them and tell them you don't give a shit puts them off...)

But really, come on...why is it this hard??? (That's what she said, etc)

I Totally agree...
If nee Fooker responds then How T F is anything meant to hapoen..even if it Just chat...

 

[ukpeeper]

What are you priorities?

Probably you should start there.

If sex is your priority, hire someone. There are plenty of legitimate sex services available across the UK. There is no shame in paying for sex. I mean look, we happily play for food, pay for clothes, pay for places to sleep, pay for massages, pay for places to exercise...sex is no different.

If sex isn't the priority, but rather you are after a meaningful human relationship. Then join a choir, or volleyball team, or book club, or language exchange circle, or volunteer at a seniors home, or horticultural society, join a gaming circle...whatever it is that you are into, or perhaps something you have never been interested in. There are so many places to meet and have meaningful interaction with other humans.

To your question, why is this so hard? Relationships are hard. There is no other way to do it. It is hard to get someone to trust you, harder still to get them to invest in you.

There was another thread here, by a lad frustrated he and his wife hadn't had sex in 18 months...and most of the responses were to the effect of...18 months is nothing.

It's hard perhaps because it's your first dry spell.
But, don't worry too much. You will find a way. As they say:

Stay hungry. Keep on playing the game.

I must comment on your reply here and say, I have read many of your replies recently and find they are always friendly and helpful Xx

 

[SussexGuy47]

Thank you. That's a very kind thing to say.

The best way to make friends is to be friendly

I don't know if any of the hot air the bubbles out of my head is helpful. But I hope at least it isn't harmful.

My most hated teacher from school, gave me the most precious lesson of my life.
"It's your choice"

We always have a choice. Being alive gifts us with so many wonderful opportunities to affirm our personhood by choosing.
I choose kindness whenever and whereever I can.

You could be a v helpful therapist kinda person hehe.
Find out the whats an the whys..
Next question is WHERE lol

 

[seejay76]

What are you priorities?

Probably you should start there.

If sex is your priority, hire someone. There are plenty of legitimate sex services available across the UK. There is no shame in paying for sex. I mean look, we happily play for food, pay for clothes, pay for places to sleep, pay for massages, pay for places to exercise...sex is no different.

If sex isn't the priority, but rather you are after a meaningful human relationship. Then join a choir, or volleyball team, or book club, or language exchange circle, or volunteer at a seniors home, or horticultural society, join a gaming circle...whatever it is that you are into, or perhaps something you have never been interested in. There are so many places to meet and have meaningful interaction with other humans.

To your question, why is this so hard? Relationships are hard. There is no other way to do it. It is hard to get someone to trust you, harder still to get them to invest in you.

There was another thread here, by a lad frustrated he and his wife hadn't had sex in 18 months...and most of the responses were to the effect of...18 months is nothing.

It's hard perhaps because it's your first dry spell.
But, don't worry too much. You will find a way. As they say:

Stay hungry. Keep on playing the game.

Honestly, just looking for the sex. Just not interested in a relationship (kid with my ex, too much personal crap going on as it is). Have considered visiting a Lady of Negotiable Virtue, but I'm barely scraping by as it is (see ex, kid). Happy days... :/

 

[seejay76]

Self love is all well and good, but now and again you just want some boobies to fondle and suck on!