disgusting

[him]

why do men in 40+ think its ok to hit on and proposition 18 year girls on here , 3 i have seen are 40years older than the adult child , because thats what 18yr olds are you fooking beasts

 

[dicusdiminutivus]

Because that is the possible demographic of the site.

Now, at 78, I'm not at all likely to hit on 18 year olds, but if there were 60, 70 + ladies actively on site in the same manner as the young fillies, I probably might, braring in mind all we'd both know and be aware of.

 

[Firefly]

Here here!

 

[him]

Because that is the possible demographic of the site.

Now, at 78, I'm not at all likely to hit on 18 year olds, but if there were 60, 70 + ladies actively on site in the same manner as the young fillies, I probably might, braring in mind all we'd both know and be aware of.

deffo not the demographic of the site, its a morals thing and those that fall into that mannerism have no morals and in my eyes are repulsive.

 

[Grace19]

why do men in 40+ think its ok to hit on and proposition 18 year girls on here , 3 i have seen are 40years older than the adult child , because thats what 18yr olds are you fooking beasts

Thank you …..about time someone spoke up about this shit

 

[Stiffernow]

Cos it’s a chat site and anyone from 18 upwards are free to chat to anyone they feel like . Obviously if the older guys are half decent they’ll do just that and leave it at chat . If the younger ladies are uncomfortable with it they should be clear about it and block anyone they feel is making them feel uncomfortable. Let’s be clear here though the site is an adult chat site not the church. And just to emphasise it the active word is CHAT it’s not a dating site or a poor man’s tinder so expect adult chat .
Ladies that join the site and post provocative pictures are obviously open to adult conversation and any guy that oversteps their limits can expect to get blocked so let’s not all get offended by proxy and like life be the adult you want to be and don’t accept bad behaviour from anyone.
Be sensible and respectful and remember it is a chat site

 

[HardAnal]

My two cents. Feel free to disagree.

For many, this chat is a fantasy playground. It's a safe space for them to explore themselves. A lot of men and also a lot of younger women have the fantasy of an age gap, an older, more experienced man controlling them. The same is also true for young men and older women.

Age gaps, and by definition experience gaps have always been there throughout history. It's an enduring thing.

However...

Not everyone is on this site to play in a fantasy realm. Some are on here to actually try and do it in real life. That is where the problem lies. It's very hard to tell the difference between fantasy play and grooming.

Personally, I prefer my women to have similar experience levels to me, to have more in common as that establishes more of a deep connection with them. This is something you simply can't get with a youngster.

 

[Stiffernow]

Why is the onus on young unexperienced people to block bad, immoral, inappropriate behaviour? Rather than on older more experienced members to check their own grooming behaviour?

We don't only behave morally because we are in church (in fact many people in churches the world over, fail to behave in moral or life affirming ways). Sex, intimacy, naked bodies, orgasms...none of these things are precluded by morality.

Grooming young people is.

The onus is not on the young but letting them know the option to block is there is a responsible piece of advice from an older guys .
As an aforementioned older guy I talk to the younger girls but I wouldn’t consider it grooming as I personally treat them with respect and quite often warn them to be careful and selective of the contacts they make .
You @Firefly know me well enough to know this is true x

 

[yummymeusli]

What a fascinating thread. I normally try and stay out of these things but I think my experience might be relevant.
My husband is a spanker and more. He likes to spank and use other implements with a bit of mild BDSM thrown in, with consenting females in his playroom. Often there is no sex involved, sometimes there is oral sex and other times full on penetrative sex. He is now 67 (he'll slow down one day - I keep telling myself - mind you: who am I to talk!?).

A few years ago he mentioned that he is often approached by young women/girls. No one under eighteen. I expostulated that it must be weird spanking the bottom of someone a year younger than our youngest daughter. He said that it didn't feel that way and went on to quote two examples of quite a few. One was eighteen the other twenty five. He said that he'd said no to the 25 year old and had a very successful session with the younger one. Naturally I was surprised, assuming that the older person would be more suitable so I asked for more information.

He felt that the older woman was trying to re-enact some form of childhood abuse - not just fancying one's Grandfather (which is apparently not uncommon) but actually re-living something that had happened and he felt that it would be dabbling in another human being's psychology and didn't feel qualified. On the other hand the younger one was very level headed about it and had tried BDSM with her then boyfriend but it hadn't worked due to his inexperience and lack of committment. She wanted somone with 'experience as well as a hard hand and a practiced eye' (his words). They had sex in some form - I didn't ask, but probably full-on.

It occurs to me that the difference here is that he is the one that is approached not him prowling girly chat sites like a predator and that, I think could be characterised as 'disgusting'. Not a term I'd use as I think inappropriate is well..., more appropriate, but I can understand where the original poster (H) is coming from. Having said that, this is not a girly chat site and the 'block' button works. Perhaps H is referring to a female dating or chat site and not this place.

The point is that I think that a relationship with a large age difference is not, in and of itself, wrong it is how it comes about that can and probably should be the cause for concern. Is Rupert Merdoch really an attractive partner and let's not mention Silvio?

I'm sure I'll get shot to pieces but we all have our views based on what we have been through/enjoyed and those are mine.

 

[HardAnal]

What a fascinating thread. I normally try and stay out of these things but I think my experience might be relevant.
My husband is a spanker and more. He likes to spank and use other implements with a bit of mild BDSM thrown in, with consenting females in his playroom. Often there is no sex involved, sometimes there is oral sex and other times full on penetrative sex. He is now 67 (he'll slow down one day - I keep telling myself - mind you: who am I to talk!?).

A few years ago he mentioned that he is often approached by young women/girls. No one under eighteen. I expostulated that it must be weird spanking the bottom of someone a year younger than our youngest daughter. He said that it didn't feel that way and went on to quote two examples of quite a few. One was eighteen the other twenty five. He said that he'd said no to the 25 year old and had a very successful session with the younger one. Naturally I was surprised, assuming that the older person would be more suitable so I asked for more information.

He felt that the older woman was trying to re-enact some form of childhood abuse - not just fancying one's Grandfather (which is apparently not uncommon) but actually re-living something that had happened and he felt that it would be dabbling in another human being's psychology and didn't feel qualified. On the other hand the younger one was very level headed about it and had tried BDSM with her then boyfriend but it hadn't worked due to his inexperience and lack of committment. She wanted somone with 'experience as well as a hard hand and a practiced eye' (his words). They had sex in some form - I didn't ask, but probably full-on.

It occurs to me that the difference here is that he is the one that is approached not him prowling girly chat sites like a predator and that, I think could be characterised as 'disgusting'. Not a term I'd use as I think inappropriate is well..., more appropriate, but I can understand where the original poster (H) is coming from. Having said that, this is not a girly chat site and the 'block' button works. Perhaps H is referring to a female dating or chat site and not this place.

The point is that I think that a relationship with a large age difference is not, in and of itself, wrong it is how it comes about that can and probably should be the cause for concern. Is Rupert Merdoch really an attractive partner and let's not mention Silvio?

I'm sure I'll get shot to pieces but we all have our views based on what we have been through/enjoyed and those are mine.

A very interesting read. Thank you for sharing

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

My advice, as one of the Admin's for this site is this. If a much younger chatter messages you, especially on a guest name, please be mindful that they are most likely male in my experience, although not always, and that they could also be under 18. If you suspect they are, for any reason, please ask them directly how old they are. If they admit to being under 18, and many do, please report them as underage, even if there are no Admin or moderators on the site at the time. If you can also take a screen shot of the PM, that would be very helpful too. We do not have any access to read either whispers or PM's. It will be dealt with if reported and they will be removed from this site. Removing paedophiles and underage chatters from this site is our number one priority. We take it very seriously.

Thank you

 

[Carollo]

Is it worse than young blokes hitting on me even though my profile says I’m not interested in younger guys? Younger women can always do what I do and politely say I’m not interested.