Advice For 40 Year Old Virgin
- Thread starter Airrad
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Hello Airrad...
I hope you are well...
First of all I have to tell you that I'm really happy to have looked back through chat threads to see your post..plus I have to say well done for reaching out for some advice..
Please don't think I'm being an idiot or insensitive to you and I hope that my advice is helpful in some way..
Of course I have not a clue how much your condition effects you in your day to day life.. I'm sure it's not easy..
At 16 I attended college to study sport and leisure management, and I managed to get a part time job at the local sports centre and swimming pool.. one of my college lecturers was the development manager for the colleges disabled students.. and within my first year of studying I was able to help with the sports centre to agree on providing the whole facility primarily for the use of the communities disabled people on a Saturday morning..
It was a huge success with various people attending, but importantly it was a very important socializing experience for those who didn't have the chance to meet others.. amazingly it resulted in many new relationships being formed..
I'm not saying that the disabled should keep to their own.. not at all.. but I am saying that it is a good place to begin.. and joining different social groups based upon interests will definitely get you more involved with somebody who has the same outlook for life as you..
You are not going to find anything meaningful on this website..
Definitely sporting groups, or try looking up a group called "simply social" they have organized events based upon lots of different interests..
Best of luck with your search for finding love, I'm 47 now and I have been single since 2018, don't be put off.. after my relationship ended with my ex wife I just wanted to be left alone and I really couldn't be arsed with the whole relationship and finding love thing.. but I have been changing my mind recently and I'm getting back in to different ways of socializing.. using my own advice.
I hope you are well...
First of all I have to tell you that I'm really happy to have looked back through chat threads to see your post..plus I have to say well done for reaching out for some advice..
Please don't think I'm being an idiot or insensitive to you and I hope that my advice is helpful in some way..
Of course I have not a clue how much your condition effects you in your day to day life.. I'm sure it's not easy..
At 16 I attended college to study sport and leisure management, and I managed to get a part time job at the local sports centre and swimming pool.. one of my college lecturers was the development manager for the colleges disabled students.. and within my first year of studying I was able to help with the sports centre to agree on providing the whole facility primarily for the use of the communities disabled people on a Saturday morning..
It was a huge success with various people attending, but importantly it was a very important socializing experience for those who didn't have the chance to meet others.. amazingly it resulted in many new relationships being formed..
I'm not saying that the disabled should keep to their own.. not at all.. but I am saying that it is a good place to begin.. and joining different social groups based upon interests will definitely get you more involved with somebody who has the same outlook for life as you..
You are not going to find anything meaningful on this website..
Definitely sporting groups, or try looking up a group called "simply social" they have organized events based upon lots of different interests..
Best of luck with your search for finding love, I'm 47 now and I have been single since 2018, don't be put off.. after my relationship ended with my ex wife I just wanted to be left alone and I really couldn't be arsed with the whole relationship and finding love thing.. but I have been changing my mind recently and I'm getting back in to different ways of socializing.. using my own advice.