A Woman's Honest Opinion.

[BoredandWelsh]

No offence to the men (because let's be fair, we do think more with our cocks than our brains) but would really love a woman's thoughts and perspective on this but by all means, all replies, help, advice and I guess assurances are welcome from everyone.

I have never cheated in my life but I have had opportunities and have always resisted.

I am so lucky in so many ways with my Wife but I cannot help wanting more. I am in love with my Wife but that does not stop me wanting to cheat. There is of course the issue of being bored and fed up of the same ole mundane routine and groundhog day feeling. Of course stress, kids, work and life in general get in the way but I am desperately craving fun, escapism, excitement and something different.

In an ideal world, I would love for my Wife and I to have an open relationship but that would never happen in a million years.

I guess I want to know opinions and thoughts on whether can you really only want to be with one person for the rest of your life?

Most people have a best friend but then they possibly have a lot of other friends. People may have a favourite band/artist but still love other music. People may have a favourite film or TV series but will probably enjoy watching many other things. You could say the same thing for most things in life, holidays, cars, drinks etc... We never restrict ourselves to one thing but will always have favourite.

It is like with food. My favourite food is Indian but I love so many other foods too. There are so many dishes I love or want to try, sample, taste, enjoy and savour but I always go back to my favourite food as my number one, which is Indian.

Poor analogy I know but I will always go back to my number one, my Wife but is it really plausible to just be with one person forever? We do not do this with any other aspect of our lives so why is this different? Other than maybe we should? That is what the wedding vows state.

Am I just being a selfish twat wanting my cake and eat it? Or is it natural to want more?

It is easy to say "You are not with the right woman" but I am genuinely, sincerely and wholeheartedly in love with my Wife. She is incredible in so many ways and I do realise how lucky I am and of course, if I had the choice of cheating and her finding out and losing her, then it is a no brainer, I do not want to lose her but hate feeling like this.

Is there anyone here who can say they are truly in love with their Partner and would never want to have fun with anyone else?

As much as I envy couples who have an open relationship, I too envy those who simply want their Partner and nobody else, although I am dubious they truly feel that way.

So am I selfish? Am I the abnormal one? Is it realistic to fancy your Partner and nobody else and not want anything else?

Sorry for the "War & Peace" but believe it or not, I do not want to cheat but the way I feel, if it was with the right person, the way I feel right now, I do not think I could turn it down. I actually think it would help my marriage, almost as I would be satisfying my missing needs but of course, I am more than aware that might be a pathetic attempt to justify my actions.

 

[BoredandWelsh]

No offence to the men (because let's be fair, we do think more with our cocks than our brains) but would really love a woman's thoughts and perspective on this but by all means, all replies, help, advice and I guess assurances are welcome from everyone.

I have never cheated in my life but I have had opportunities and have always resisted.

I am so lucky in so many ways with my Wife but I cannot help wanting more. I am in love with my Wife but that does not stop me wanting to cheat. There is of course the issue of being bored and fed up of the same ole mundane routine and groundhog day feeling. Of course stress, kids, work and life in general get in the way but I am desperately craving fun, escapism, excitement and something different.

In an ideal world, I would love for my Wife and I to have an open relationship but that would never happen in a million years.

I guess I want to know opinions and thoughts on whether can you really only want to be with one person for the rest of your life?

Most people have a best friend but then they possibly have a lot of other friends. People may have a favourite band/artist but still love other music. People may have a favourite film or TV series but will probably enjoy watching many other things. You could say the same thing for most things in life, holidays, cars, drinks etc... We never restrict ourselves to one thing but will always have favourite.

It is like with food. My favourite food is Indian but I love so many other foods too. There are so many dishes I love or want to try, sample, taste, enjoy and savour but I always go back to my favourite food as my number one, which is Indian.

Poor analogy I know but I will always go back to my number one, my Wife but is it really plausible to just be with one person forever? We do not do this with any other aspect of our lives so why is this different? Other than maybe we should? That is what the wedding vows state.

Am I just being a selfish twat wanting my cake and eat it? Or is it natural to want more?

It is easy to say "You are not with the right woman" but I am genuinely, sincerely and wholeheartedly in love with my Wife. She is incredible in so many ways and I do realise how lucky I am and of course, if I had the choice of cheating and her finding out and losing her, then it is a no brainer, I do not want to lose her but hate feeling like this.

Is there anyone here who can say they are truly in love with their Partner and would never want to have fun with anyone else?

As much as I envy couples who have an open relationship, I too envy those who simply want their Partner and nobody else, although I am dubious they truly feel that way.

So am I selfish? Am I the abnormal one? Is it realistic to fancy your Partner and nobody else and not want anything else?

Sorry for the "War & Peace" but believe it or not, I do not want to cheat but the way I feel, if it was with the right person, the way I feel right now, I do not think I could turn it down. I actually think it would help my marriage, almost as I would be satisfying my missing needs but of course, I am more than aware that might be a pathetic attempt to justify my actions.

To add, having an affair with a like minded person in a similar position wanting the same things sound ideal but even then there is the element of risk that person falls for you and may want to leave their Partner for you. I know if I started developing feelings for someone I was having an affair with, then I would end it but the other person may have other ideas.

 

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