Should I confess to my husband?
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Probably not as it had nothing to do with his fantasy. You’d probably be better chatting to him about his fantasy and saying to him you nay be willing to fulfill it under certain conditions that you and he are both completely comfortable with
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Hmmm I have my opinions about partners wanting to see their other half with someone else.. I don't think it's best.. but I think it's best for any consenting adults to phook with whomever they want as long as nobody gets hurt.. I have to ask did you have good fun with your younger man x
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maybe whilst fking him hypothetically and see how he takes it (you can always say u were making it up for him have a better oragasm lol) depends how he takes it, you can decide later
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No, and enjoy.
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Have a chat about hia fantasy. If he's still up for it, meet the other chap and fuck his brains out . But never let on it's the second time. Also you won't feel guilty about the first time
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Probably best to think of your sex with the younger guy as fun along the way. My guess is that your hubby has a fantasy but he would not be comfortable if you tell him. Best to get some good sex with hubby - try some different things etc - and discuss his fantasy and see HOW he wants to play it. Avoid just an affair with the younger guy. He's probably happy to leave things where they are and might even have already bragged to his mates that he screwed you.
Maybe I have high morals when it comes to dating/relationships or views on marriage, I don’t think you should keep it a secret from him but then again it’s not up to me to tell you how to live your life. I also agree that it’s probably best not to tell him you fucked someone else without his knowledge.. probably would have been fine with it if you discussed it beforehand but that’s life. I will say if you love your husband don’t let the love die and continually seek it elsewhere.. get more creative in and out of the bedroom and talk with each other. Sex will only improve and bring you closer hopefully.
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this thread is wild. I really didnt expect to see so many on the side of "hide it". Your confession will either turn him on or end your relationship. If the prior, then lucky girl. If the latter, the relationship wasn't going to last anyway. Better sooner than later.
It was deceitful to engage another man without permission, but if your relationship is already kind of open, perhaps you could start the conversation off with "What's my punishment? I've been naughty and I have something to confess" Of course depending on what kind of man your husband is, you will have to be prepared that he may take his anger out on you physically. But i am guessing you know him well enough, to know what to expect.
If you suspect he might get angry, then avoid confessing when you are already in a vulnerable position.
If you suspect he might completely shutdown on you, better to confess somewhere where he feels safest, so that you can then remove yourself and let him get his head straight again.
It was deceitful to engage another man without permission, but if your relationship is already kind of open, perhaps you could start the conversation off with "What's my punishment? I've been naughty and I have something to confess" Of course depending on what kind of man your husband is, you will have to be prepared that he may take his anger out on you physically. But i am guessing you know him well enough, to know what to expect.
If you suspect he might get angry, then avoid confessing when you are already in a vulnerable position.
If you suspect he might completely shutdown on you, better to confess somewhere where he feels safest, so that you can then remove yourself and let him get his head straight again.
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Definitely not. Fantasising about something and hearing it’s already happened without him agreeing or participating could lead to a divorce court! Anyway, most people who fantasise wouldn’t dream of actually doing it!
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Yes, but approach it slowly lol
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Tell him... he will probably love it and if he wants to see you get fucked, I'd be happy yo help out
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Ide love to help out in this
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I bet you would