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boredbedsguy50 said:
How many men over 50 are having problems with women of their own age losing their sex drive?
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okay, this question is a little triggering. And I'm doing my best to find a way into it without sounding defensive or attacking anyone. But it is a pretty triggerish way to ask about how to rekindle intimacy and sexual contact with peri-menopausal and menopausal women...

How many women transitioning out of reproductive mode are struggling with a loss of sex drive? vaginal dryness/numbness? increased susceptibility to yeast infection, UIT, prolapse? weight changes? mood swings? new body hair, balding, breast atrophy/loss of sensation in their breasts? body dysmorphia as the body they have been working with the past 30 years suddenly shifts into something new that they don't entirely recognize. and a fairly significant host of other psychological changes that happen for women at that time in their lives.

Many woman after starting the menopause enjoy an increase in sex drive. Sex becomes more comfortable and fun and for the first time in their lives free. But it is in a whole new body for them. Perhaps sexual partners who are curious and keen to explore this new phase of sexual activity might help more women reconnect with their sexual selves after that transition.


question: for men, do you find what you want/need sexually has changed as you age?
 
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Firefly said:
@JohnM would you rather have two fingers on each hand or seven?
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Got to be 7. Imagine the guitar solos!
And 8 points on contact per hand would be amazing for tickles, massages and reaching all those pleasure points…..
 
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Firefly said:
okay, this question is a little triggering. And I'm doing my best to find a way into it without sounding defensive or attacking anyone. But it is a pretty triggerish way to ask about how to rekindle intimacy and sexual contact with peri-menopausal and menopausal women...

How many women transitioning out of reproductive mode are struggling with a loss of sex drive? vaginal dryness/numbness? increased susceptibility to yeast infection, UIT, prolapse? weight changes? mood swings? new body hair, balding, breast atrophy/loss of sensation in their breasts? body dysmorphia as the body they have been working with the past 30 years suddenly shifts into something new that they don't entirely recognize. and a fairly significant host of other psychological changes that happen for women at that time in their lives.

Many woman after starting the menopause enjoy an increase in sex drive. Sex becomes more comfortable and fun and for the first time in their lives free. But it is in a whole new body for them. Perhaps sexual partners who are curious and keen to explore this new phase of sexual activity might help more women reconnect with their sexual selves after that transition.


question: for men, do you find what you want/need sexually has changed as you age?
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Fuck I’m not looking forward to getting older now! Thanks Firefly lol
 
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Just-me said:
Fuck I’m not looking forward to getting older now! Thanks Firefly lol
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You are welcome sweetheart :p

My advice, don't settle on your adventure buddy. And if you find out after the fact that your adventure buddy sucks, stop being buddies and find a new Adventure buddy. There's so many f****** awesome adventure buddies in the world and as our friend above pointed out a dirth of women over 50 who enjoy sex. Be picky.
 
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Firefly said:
You are welcome sweetheart :p

My advice, don't settle on your adventure buddy. And if you find out after the fact that your adventure buddy sucks, stop being buddies and find a new Adventure buddy. There's so many f****** awesome adventure buddies in the world and as our friend above pointed out a dirth of women over 50 who enjoy sex. Be picky.
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Yes mum
 
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I have to be honest as a 52 YO man I’ve noticed a lot more changes since I past the 50 marker.
My desire for sex was there but I could take it or leave it. Probably due to running my own business as I have put so much energy into this that there was very little energy for anything else.
Sleeping alone as a guy my age you really miss the woman next to you when you dosing off. Going to bed early is more fun. Waking up next to someone you love on a Saturday and Sunday morning is the best. Chatting, laughing and touching doesn’t always lead to sex and to be honest for me I’m way more patient now and do not need to climax to have had a great time. It’s not a race to the finish line or a marking system out of 10 for your performance. I hate all that shit now. Sex in many ways has become a how well did you do, I think porn has had a big part to play. I need sex, I want sex, I also want to walk up and hold her from behind and kiss her neck before I make my cup of tea. As regard to the menopores I don’t think men will ever fully understand that which is a shame because you need patience and us men lack that. I’ve met women between 50 and 60 where it has affected them differently some gone sex mad others not interested at all.
What I do find interesting now is men and women’s openness to tell strangers what they are missing or what they need in a more open way. I have numerous conversations with woman I meet at work and find us talking about sex and alike subjects. Definitely people like to share more. Sorry didn’t mean to write an essay, apologies.
 
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UltraVires said:
Vegetarian haggis and a drizzle of whisky cream sauce. An acquired taste, for sure, but I'd like it to be an exclusive menu item.

The UltraVires Deluxe would be the same, except dipped in batter and deep fried.
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I honestly didnt know it was that easy to fall in love.
and yet here I am.

again.

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Sparky54 said:
I have to be honest as a 52 YO man I’ve noticed a lot more changes since I past the 50 marker.
My desire for sex was there but I could take it or leave it. Probably due to running my own business as I have put so much energy into this that there was very little energy for anything else.
Sleeping alone as a guy my age you really miss the woman next to you when you dosing off. Going to bed early is more fun. Waking up next to someone you love on a Saturday and Sunday morning is the best. Chatting, laughing and touching doesn’t always lead to sex and to be honest for me I’m way more patient now and do not need to climax to have had a great time. It’s not a race to the finish line or a marking system out of 10 for your performance. I hate all that shit now. Sex in many ways has become a how well did you do, I think porn has had a big part to play. I need sex, I want sex, I also want to walk up and hold her from behind and kiss her neck before I make my cup of tea. As regard to the menopores I don’t think men will ever fully understand that which is a shame because you need patience and us men lack that. I’ve met women between 50 and 60 where it has affected them differently some gone sex mad others not interested at all.
What I do find interesting now is men and women’s openness to tell strangers what they are missing or what they need in a more open way. I have numerous conversations with woman I meet at work and find us talking about sex and alike subjects. Definitely people like to share more. Sorry didn’t mean to write an essay, apologies.
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Go training a few times a week take your mind off rude things if not trying go walking at first you feel tired but as time goes on you feel fitter and can do more it also helps your mental health. Don’t sit watching tv that fucks you up When your body is fit try meeting someone but still keep your mind off sex. Talk about hobbies etc soon enough you’ll end up in bed,
 
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Firefly said:
You are welcome sweetheart :p

My advice, don't settle on your adventure buddy. And if you find out after the fact that your adventure buddy sucks, stop being buddies and find a new Adventure buddy. There's so many f****** awesome adventure buddies in the world and as our friend above pointed out a dirth of women over 50 who enjoy sex. Be picky.
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No no let her suck it
 
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