Is it cheating?

[Nagromnai]

Just curious as to the views of those who use this site and maybe others like it (if there are any other sites) would you consider your activities on here as being unfaithful to your partner if you have one and they are unaware the fact you use this site, I ask because my ex wife did but I disagree I think it's no different from watching porn and that unless you actually arrange to meet someone and have sex with them you haven't been unfaithful, at the end of the day to me it's just harmless flirting and a bit of naughty chat or am I wrong?

 

[marriedsharon50]

Just curious as to the views of those who use this site and maybe others like it (if there are any other sites) would you consider your activities on here as being unfaithful to your partner if you have one and they are unaware the fact you use this site, I ask because my ex wife did but I disagree I think it's no different from watching porn and that unless you actually arrange to meet someone and have sex with them you haven't been unfaithful, at the end of the day to me it's just harmless flirting and a bit of naughty chat or am I wrong?

it's not cheating, even though my hubby knows and is happy with it

 

[Bigjugs]

If i had a partner and they secretly went online to get off on one and flirt n have fun with someone else instead of me I'd be gutted and pissed off but thats from someone who's very happily single.

But if we openly said it was something that turns us both on and we were equally getting fun online then I'd be fine with it.

Im weird I know. Haha x

 

[Philevo71]

If i had a partner and they secretly went online to get off on one and flirt n have fun with someone else instead of me I'd be gutted but thats from someone who's very happily single.

But if we openly said it was something that turns us both on and we were equally getting fun online then I'd be fine with it.

Im weird I know. Haha x

Nope not weird I totally agree with your statement!

I think if one person was on here or whatever site chatting with others without the other persons knowledge then there’s a trust issue straight off and if you have no trust the relationship ain’t worth shit!!!

Well that’s how I would see it it’s not cheating but it’s as deceitful!!

 

[SamHughes]

My definition of cheating: when you do something you hope your SO never finds out about. It's the deceit that makes it cheating.

 

[Bigjugs]

Id be surprised if there isn't a relationship where one ends up bored and fucking about. Usually the man (sorry but it is because the woman usually ends up stuck at home moaning about kids n shit, I know this cause I was one of them) that's why I prefer living independently cause I'm not getting walked over again and again n used to do washing and cooking fuck that haha x

 

[Bigjugs]

I'm sure you're right BJ because most of us males think with their dangley bits I enjoy the flirting and fantasy on here but would never go any further without the other halfs blessing we've been together 30 years and she has looked after me for long enough so now its my turn to look after her she does have a good laugh at some of the things that I put on here

Id be totally fine knowing things rather than someone sneaking about behind ma back. I suppose its all down to being truthful with the "one u love"

 

[Bigjugs]

But the original question was is it cheating

So yes I'd say it is if u are doing it on the sly
And
No if yous both agree its something yous both want or don't mind the other doing.
X

 

[Ste1972]

But the original question was is it cheating

So yes I'd say it is if u are doing it on the sly
And
No if yous both agree its something yous both want or don't mind the other doing.
X

Full agreement from me

 

[Adie]

What a great topic.
This is a subject that can be debated till the end of times.
Perception plays a major part of interpretation.
This is predominantly a chat site not a dating or sex meeting site.
I think Miss Jugs nailed it when she said.
" the original question was is it cheating

So yes I'd say it is if u are doing it on the sly
And
No if yous both agree its something yous both want or don't mind the other doing."

 

[Emeris]

If you are just chatting and flirting I would say no, but if it goes further, even to sexting and wanking then yes.

 

[Philevo71]

But the original question was is it cheating

So yes I'd say it is if u are doing it on the sly
And
No if yous both agree its something yous both want or don't mind the other doing.
X

I am at a loss for words if your fella wasn’t happy enough with you BJ tbh I would not be wanting to leave you alone let alone want more than you!!!!

 

[Prisofdesert]

There's a saying. 'What a tangled web we weave once we practice to deceive.'
It can be a difficult one to answer. I am single. The rabbid dogs woudn't even eat me. If I were in a relationship and the other half was on any kind of sex site. I'd want to know why before kicking onto the street. Betrayal - nomatter how you try and wrap it up is still betrayal. It's a slippery slope. I have been sorely tempted. I don't care of the other knows or not - it is still betrayal. It will, like a worm, eat away and cause issues. I've seen and known bitter betrayal and what it can do to a person's life and I never want to see it again. I would Rodeo til he was 'Ahhhhh ahhhhh ahhhhhh fucking ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh !' Then take out the ice pic and stick it in his carotid artery.


It's one of those things in life. You have to experience to know. For some it is a good thing. For others not so. I think if you talk about it. But I think you find very few enjoy betrayal.

I would not sit in judgement of anyone. I meet and chat to all sorts. But people who use these places - yours truly included. Something is lacking in life. The time is better invested finding out what that is and doing something about it. Porn is highly addictive and that causes all kinds of issues. It's a complex one. But we are complex. We never know what we can or will do or risk til we are in that kind of situation. I get an impression that very many married people are very lonely. Deep down. It's not just sex - they are not getting the real intimacy - even animal lust at times they crave. Go someone else occasionally ? Maybe. That you ask such a question tells a lot about you as a person. Good. But at end of day - we all have to live our own lives. LIVE them. If you know what I mean.


I got my corona viral test result this AM. Neg. It's all the HOT sex. Body heat kills off baceterial and viral infections. If I am not getting it hot and heavy every ten mins. I am straight onto some helpline or other.


DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF. Use common sense too. Be happy. LIVE.

 

[Nagromnai]

If you are just chatting and flirting I would say no, but if it goes further, even to sexting and wanking then yes.

Ok so being a bit of a devils advocate for a bit if you take that to a possible conclusion then if you wank to porn then that would be cheating, and that seems wrong to me

 

[Emeris]

I hadn't thought about porn because I have not watched it for some time. I was thinking more of wanking while chatting, which I have done several times This being a more personal one to one thing than porn which is a more solitary option.

 

[GeorgeC]

I’m cheating then by the sound of things. I’m a carer for my wife who due to issues can’t/doesn’t want sex. If she knew I was on here she would indeed be gutted and would probably feel like a failure. I still have needs that sadly I will never now get to do again so I come here to help keep me alive and if I’m honest to feel wanted. I do feel bad about it at times.

 

[Condor]

Yes it is cheating if you are hiding it, but if we are all honest its the sensual chat that goes on with others that fuels the passion and fantasy.