How to overcome shyness

[mavis11]

I'm in my late 30s and lived a very deprived sex life . I am in a loving relationship with a highly sexuall man who is extremely kinky for the last 2.5 years . My problem is my confidence . He has opened my eyes to sex and his kinky ways which turns me on but my main issue is confidence I want to turn him on by fulfilling his fantasy of watching me fuck another man but how can I get more confident to be the slut he would like me to be. How do you learn to let go and speak dirty I struggle what to say as don't want to sound stupid .
Advice welcome

 

[Philevo71]

I'm in my late 30s and lived a very deprived sex life . I am in a loving relationship with a highly sexuall man who is extremely kinky for the last 2.5 years . My problem is my confidence . He has opened my eyes to sex and his kinky ways which turns me on but my main issue is confidence I want to turn him on by fulfilling his fantasy of watching me fuck another man but how can I get more confident to be the slut he would like me to be. How do you learn to let go and speak dirty I struggle what to say as don't want to sound stupid .
Advice welcome

You should NOT even consider it just to fulfill his needs it should be a route that you both want to exlpore?
Also he should be asking you if it’s something you’d like to consider for some it’s a slippery slope and can ruin a relationship and for others it works because it’s that sort of relationship!
That’s just my opinion!

 

[mavis11]

You should NOT even consider it just to fulfill his needs it should be a route that you both want to exlpore?
Also he should be asking you if it’s something you’d like to consider for some it’s a slippery slope and can ruin a relationship and for others it works because it’s that sort of relationship!
That’s just my opinion!

Thank you for replying and advice . Oh i wouldn't do anything I am not comfortable with doing and won't do it just to please . I know we both got to get off on it . I am pretty open minded and nothing fazes me and I do want to explore this kinky side I do find it a turn on and even more of a turn on giving him a show making him get off on it . My problem is my lack of confidence. I don't know if it's because I know he has loads of experience and I haven't. Just find it hard to speak and express myself I guess . He won't make me do anything I don't want to do but I want to kink up our sex life's.

 

[Philevo71]

Thank you for replying and advice . Oh i wouldn't do anything I am not comfortable with doing and won't do it just to please . I know we both got to get off on it . I am pretty open minded and nothing fazes me and I do want to explore this kinky side I do find it a turn on and even more of a turn on giving him a show making him get off on it . My problem is my lack of confidence. I don't know if it's because I know he has loads of experience and I haven't. Just find it hard to speak and express myself I guess . He won't make me do anything I don't want to do but I want to kink up our sex life's.

All I’m saying is when other people are involved it’s a slippery slope thinking about doing it and doing it are two different worlds, but for some it works but that’s usually because the relationship is an open one!
And do you wanna be slutty or seductive for me it’s putting the guy in his place you call the shots tell him when he can touch you or join it the whole holding back thing will be enough to drive any man mad, elsi explore yourself know what you like as for me a girl playing in front of me and making herself orgasm without me kills me, do it almost to the point where here is gagging to get his hands on you!!

 

[Philevo71]

Also having lots of experience doesn’t make sex great, great understanding of each other’s needs makes sex great!!

 

[mavis11]

All I’m saying is when other people are involved it’s a slippery slope thinking about doing it and doing it are two different worlds, but for some it works but that’s usually because the relationship is an open one!
And do you wanna be slutty or seductive for me it’s putting the guy in his place you call the shots tell him when he can touch you or join it the whole holding back thing will be enough to drive any man mad, elsi explore yourself know what you like as for me a girl playing in front of me and making herself orgasm without me kills me, do it almost to the point where here is gagging to get his hands on you!!

Thank you for your advice . I want to come out of my shell and like the thought of me being in control .

 

[Philevo71]

You should do it have a few sherbets beforehand and you’ll find you speak a lot more freely and act a lot more slutty without trying to hard that alcohol will help you lose your shyness and inhibitions! X

 

[NorthernRuff69]

I'm in my late 30s and lived a very deprived sex life . I am in a loving relationship with a highly sexuall man who is extremely kinky for the last 2.5 years . My problem is my confidence . He has opened my eyes to sex and his kinky ways which turns me on but my main issue is confidence I want to turn him on by fulfilling his fantasy of watching me fuck another man but how can I get more confident to be the slut he would like me to be. How do you learn to let go and speak dirty I struggle what to say as don't want to sound stupid .
Advice welcome

I dont think you cam just switch it on and off like that it will come with time maybe try watching some porn failing that drugs work mdma cocaine maybe and drink to loosen up a bit..

 

[Newburysub]

Thank you for your advice . I want to come out of my shell and like the thought of me being in control .

Being in control is the hard part, as others have said, you have to do this for you as well as others. Maybe try to be that easy slut for him to start with, then maybe a few photos, for others to comment on. Don't get caught up in the hype of sex in porn films, believe me they are not real, guys say both suck me, easy if your hung like a horse and have a flat stomach, not so easy with a tiny cock and a stomach that's in the way.

 

[Alex_scuba]

Yes. Agree only do what you are happy with.
But yes a couple of drinks can help relax.

happy to chat more / privately if would help as have had gf in same place and we chatted about it.

 

[CarlHenderson]

I'm in my late 30s and lived a very deprived sex life . I am in a loving relationship with a highly sexuall man who is extremely kinky for the last 2.5 years . My problem is my confidence . He has opened my eyes to sex and his kinky ways which turns me on but my main issue is confidence I want to turn him on by fulfilling his fantasy of watching me fuck another man but how can I get more confident to be the slut he would like me to be. How do you learn to let go and speak dirty I struggle what to say as don't want to sound stupid .
Advice welcome

You’ve come to the right place as this place has boosted my confidence no end… if you want to send some messages privately to see if they are up to what you want that’s fine. Message away… will give feedback. And just getting a message will be a bonus for me hahhahaha