Is it only me...

[DirtyOldBastard]

… or does it seem that 'submission' has become something more akin to a competitive sport on social media, with pictures and posts trying outdo other in terms of more bruising, or more masochism, or being more provocative.

Worse still, the majority lack any real imagination, following the same formula.

Or is it just me that has noticed this?

 

[Gemmauk]

… or does it seem that 'submission' has become something more akin to a competitive sport on social media, with pictures and posts trying outdo other in terms of more bruising, or more masochism, or being more provocative.

Worse still, the majority lack any real imagination, following the same formula.

Or is it just me that has noticed this?

I've never done any of it for real. I do see the pictures and the bruises do put me off a little.

Its exciting but I dont wanna be really hurt xx

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

I've never done any of it for real. I do see the pictures and the bruises do put me off a little.

Its exciting but I dont wanna be really hurt xx

I know some people enjoy being bruised, or broken skin, etc. But for maximum enjoyment, it should always be safe and consensual, which is why we have safe words.

If a Dom/Domme doesn't respect that, then it is not BDSM; it's abuse.

 

[Gemmauk]

I know some people enjoy being bruised, or broken skin, etc. But for maximum enjoyment, it should always be safe and consensual, which is why we have safe words.

If a Dom/Domme doesn't respect that, then it is not BDSM; it's abuse.

Yes.

I have different limits for fantasy and things I'd like to really do.

I love the thought of being spanked then slowly taken further until I find where my limit is.

When I get the courage to ask someone to anyway lol

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

Yes.

I have different limits for fantasy and things I'd like to really do.

I love the thought of being spanked then slowly taken further until I find where my limit is.

When I get the courage to ask someone to anyway lol

It's good to build up trust with your partner before starting anything - I've known people just jump right in and regret it afterwards.

 

[Gemmauk]

It's good to build up trust with your partner before starting anything - I've known people just jump right in and regret it afterwards.

That's what I dont want to do.

I am not really sure if I can take any real punishment so I dont want to disappoint anyone.

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

That's what I dont want to do.

I am not really sure if I can take any real punishment so I dont want to disappoint anyone.

If they're disappointed, they've failed you - they should be respectful and understanding of your feelings. If they tell you they're disappointed (and not in the role-play way), then they will probably fall into the 'abuser' category.

 

[Gemmauk]

If they're disappointed, they've failed you - they should be respectful and understanding of your feelings. If they tell you they're disappointed (and not in the role-play way), then they will probably fall into the 'abuser' category.

Good to think if it that way.

I'll have a good think about whether I should get my bf to do it or stick to the idea of someone off the net to do it xx

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

Good to think if it that way.

I'll have a good think about whether I should get my bf to do it or stick to the idea of someone off the net to do it xx

I would hope you have built enough trust with your bf to at least try some things out ;-)

 

[LA75]

From what I have seen on a lot of fetish sites, fetalife in particular it's just simply abuse under the guise of bdsm. When really if the basics of a sub and dom relationship are followed no one would get hurt.

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

From what I have seen on a lot of fetish sites, fetalife in particular it's just simply abuse under the guise of bdsm. When really if the basics of a sub and dom relationship are followed no one would get hurt.

I'm somewhat bothered that some propagate this 'abuse' to try and make it the norm, so those who are less experienced accept the abuse as standard, and are perhaps conditioned to accept it.

And I say this as someone who does have sadistic tendencies.

 

[DirtyOldBastard]

Right tie me up and let's give this a go..yes means no and no means yes, mercy for more and harder for less, a black coffee with milk sweet no sugar refers to nearly finished and done..

I think you've got it! By jove he's got it!