Help!

[Sarah1984]

So I went on my first ever date with a girl today, she's absolutely amazing. She's always been gay, never interested in guys, never been with a guy, has no interest. I however, have considered myself bi-ish, in that in the past I've found girls attractive, I've slept with girls and had a good time, but for a relationship I've always fallen back on men. Men to me have always been who you have a relationship with and girls are play buddies.

However, that all changed last night when I met the most amazing woman I have ever met, I wanted to declare my love to her on the spot! She is simply awesome, beautiful, fun, I could go on! We had a date this morning, we went for breakfast, then a walk, a coffee, bit more wandering about and talking. Just everything was easy, we held hands totally relaxed, it was by far the best first date in my life. We kissed... Wow, what a kiss... and went home to our own homes, I wanted her to come back to my house but she was going out with friends to a firework display later and needed to get ready...

So my question is how do I handle this? Do I just go with the flow... I don't want to say the wrong thing and fuck this up because so far it's been amazing, and I mean utterly amazing... And yes, it's only been one date!

Any thoughts or advice welcomed!

Thanks!

 

[ArcherSam]

So I went on my first ever date with a girl today, she's absolutely amazing. She's always been gay, never interested in guys, never been with a guy, has no interest. I however, have considered myself bi-ish, in that in the past I've found girls attractive, I've slept with girls and had a good time, but for a relationship I've always fallen back on men. Men to me have always been who you have a relationship with and girls are play buddies.

However, that all changed last night when I met the most amazing woman I have ever met, I wanted to declare my love to her on the spot! She is simply awesome, beautiful, fun, I could go on! We had a date this morning, we went for breakfast, then a walk, a coffee, bit more wandering about and talking. Just everything was easy, we held hands totally relaxed, it was by far the best first date in my life. We kissed... Wow, what a kiss... and went home to our own homes, I wanted her to come back to my house but she was going out with friends to a firework display later and needed to get ready...

So my question is how do I handle this? Do I just go with the flow... I don't want to say the wrong thing and fuck this up because so far it's been amazing, and I mean utterly amazing... And yes, it's only been one date!

Any thoughts or advice welcomed!

Thanks!

go with the flow, sounds like you had a great time, she probably did too and i bet she's at the fireworks thinking only of you! x

 

[Sarah1984]

go with the flow, sounds like you had a great time, she probably did too and i bet she's at the fireworks thinking only of you! x

I've just had a message from her, "hope you've not got plans. Put on some warm clothes I've got another ticket, I'll pick you up at 6!!"

I am now simultaneously turned on and feeling sick!

That's good... Right?

 

[Stiffernow]

Enjoy yourself and don’t let your overthinking head loose lol

 

[nobby700]

Just try to play it cool, she is obviously as keen as you are, just enjoy the moment

 

[Sarah1984]

Metaphorical and literal fireworks!

 

[JohnM]

Sounds like the flow is doing it’s job rather well, enjoy with bells on

 

[southernguy48]

So I went on my first ever date with a girl today, she's absolutely amazing. She's always been gay, never interested in guys, never been with a guy, has no interest. I however, have considered myself bi-ish, in that in the past I've found girls attractive, I've slept with girls and had a good time, but for a relationship I've always fallen back on men. Men to me have always been who you have a relationship with and girls are play buddies.

However, that all changed last night when I met the most amazing woman I have ever met, I wanted to declare my love to her on the spot! She is simply awesome, beautiful, fun, I could go on! We had a date this morning, we went for breakfast, then a walk, a coffee, bit more wandering about and talking. Just everything was easy, we held hands totally relaxed, it was by far the best first date in my life. We kissed... Wow, what a kiss... and went home to our own homes, I wanted her to come back to my house but she was going out with friends to a firework display later and needed to get ready...

So my question is how do I handle this? Do I just go with the flow... I don't want to say the wrong thing and fuck this up because so far it's been amazing, and I mean utterly amazing... And yes, it's only been one date!

Any thoughts or advice welcomed!

Thanks!

relax be yourself and let fate do the rest x

 

[nobby700]

So how did it go?

 

[Sarah1984]

So how did it go?

Very very very well!!!

 

[nobby700]

So pleased for you,I'm sure it will be a special time for the both of you

 

[Sarah1984]

So pleased for you,I'm sure it will be a special time for the both of you

I would still like some actual advice from actual lesbians on here! I'm not sure if I need advice but any pointers would be of benefit, from what she did to me last night clearly I've been doing it all wrong and I had no idea I could turn into such a broken shaking orgasm potato! I'm still in shock now!

 

[Firefly]

was ever a more beautiful phrase uttered...
"a broken shaking orgasm potato"

poetry!

Don't be an ally, just be yourself. If things are going somewhere good with your new adventure buddy, be real, be present and help the adventure grow. Like in any new relationship, regardless of who it involves, being honest about what you are giving into and getting from the relationship will help both of you decide who it can grow or end.

But in terms of lesbian sex/orgasms. I agree, there is a lot to learn. Be curious about her body and your own. Ask questions. If she managed to turn you into an orgasm potato she certainly has some valuable lessons to learn you. Lesbian sex is a different mountain than heterosexual sex, than group sex, than trans sex...learn how to climb that mountain.

And when you manage to turn her into a quivering orgasm puddle...you'll know you are on the right path

 

[CurvyMelanie88]

I’m so happy it all went well for you.

I am kind of similar to you in that I’ve always found a certain type of woman very attractive and I was very curious. I’ve often used the ‘lesbian card’ on nights out with a friend and I do consider myself as bi.

I have had limited experience and on both occasions it was with the same woman. We both got very drunk at a friends house party and ended up staying and sharing a bed. Normally I sleep naked but thought I’d be respectful and leave my underwear on, she had no qualms though and stripped right down to a sexy little g string. I was already very horny so thought I’d give it about 15 minutes to make sure she was asleep before I started rubbing myself. Well either I was too loud or she wasn’t actually asleep as she rolled over and asked if I needed some help. Before I could answer she kissed me and slid her hand inside my thong. Needless to say we were both soon naked and there was a lot of sucking, licking, biting & kissing. Woke up in the morning with our tits pressed against each other and our legs intertwined. I then found out she was a lesbian.

Anyway, we swapped numbers, met up a few days later for lunch and ended up going back to hers where I told her I wanted a repeat but this time while we were sober as being drunk the previous time helped as I had no inhibitions. We went upstairs and it was just as good as the previous time. I went home thinking that maybe I’m better suited to being a lesbian and strongly considered it. However I got friend zoned the next morning, she was just looking for a bit of fun while she was persuing another woman and this brief friendship soon fizzled out.

I’ve not had any experience like that with a woman since and do miss it. My husband knows this and we are open to the idea of a bi FFM threesome one day in the future.

Sorry I’ve waffled on, just wanted to tell you my experience. But yeah like everyone has said, be yourself, if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be

 

[Sarah1984]

I’m so happy it all went well for you.

I am kind of similar to you in that I’ve always found a certain type of woman very attractive and I was very curious. I’ve often used the ‘lesbian card’ on nights out with a friend and I do consider myself as bi.

I have had limited experience and on both occasions it was with the same woman. We both got very drunk at a friends house party and ended up staying and sharing a bed. Normally I sleep naked but thought I’d be respectful and leave my underwear on, she had no qualms though and stripped right down to a sexy little g string. I was already very horny so thought I’d give it about 15 minutes to make sure she was asleep before I started rubbing myself. Well either I was too loud or she wasn’t actually asleep as she rolled over and asked if I needed some help. Before I could answer she kissed me and slid her hand inside my thong. Needless to say we were both soon naked and there was a lot of sucking, licking, biting & kissing. Woke up in the morning with our tits pressed against each other and our legs intertwined. I then found out she was a lesbian.

Anyway, we swapped numbers, met up a few days later for lunch and ended up going back to hers where I told her I wanted a repeat but this time while we were sober as being drunk the previous time helped as I had no inhibitions. We went upstairs and it was just as good as the previous time. I went home thinking that maybe I’m better suited to being a lesbian and strongly considered it. However I got friend zoned the next morning, she was just looking for a bit of fun while she was persuing another woman and this brief friendship soon fizzled out.

I’ve not had any experience like that with a woman since and do miss it. My husband knows this and we are open to the idea of a bi FFM threesome one day in the future.

Sorry I’ve waffled on, just wanted to tell you my experience. But yeah like everyone has said, be yourself, if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be

Thanks for the reply, I really appreciate the time you spent writing that.

I've had a few ffm threesomes and I've really enjoyed them, but I'm guessing I'd previously based all my knowledge on "what's good" was porn, and I think everything I'd been doing was largely around the male fantasy, and, let's be honest there is nothing wrong with that, it was a lot of fun!

But this has been the first time with only a girl and it's very different, and I really like it! Also, she's not like the girls I've slept with in the past, and again, I think previously they too have been wrapped in the male fantasy ffm threesome...

But clearly, when it's just two girls the dynamic is very different, it feels way more intimate, much more about feelings and closeness and I'm way way way into it! I feel I've been massively missing out! But right now, I'm with a beautiful woman, who seems to like me, and I like her (a lot). We'll see where this goes!