Suffering from that problem myself, that really is a double edged sword. I'm not casting my vote as there isn't an option for "it doesn't matter and think you're attractive (AF) full stop"....
Happy to push those boundaries in all sorts of directions for you. Ex Fet Scene demo giver and safety bod, love control play and forced use. Head fucks also a speciality as well as heavy scene play....
Helloooooooo
Yeah, I suck at these things. I mean, suck! I'm me, 42, from Sheffield and love fun. Have a kinky side that i'm happy to share with willing participants and after that cest la vie!
Happy Hunting
Mvdw