I am glad that you are working out what you want. Start hard and fast. Really go for it and take what you need. Then allow someone to explore your body. Hold you and cuddle you. A true person won't just bang you and walk away. Just enjoy yourself and play.
Go and play. Find someone who respects what you want. Definitely someone who is patient. But ready to be energetic when it's right. Sometimes it is good to have slow lovemaking. Sometimes hard and fast is good. But either way, do what is right for you.
Actually be able to find a woman who wants to just enjoy good sex. Not looking for another heavy relationship. Just some good play time. Not looking to go bed hopping or be disrespectful.
I like to think I'm quite intelligent. I have a great imagination and I love to please the woman I am with...