I fully agree with this and have the same feelings im also in the same boat married but mo kids .I think I've worked out that the . Naughty secret you carry is what drives your lust and fantasy . Nothing about a man turns me on but the thought of sitting in a car in the dark discrete snogging...
This might help me too . I'm very sensitive with the intetcourse as my wife squeezes me when wr fuck which dosnt help .amd with my diabetes my erection dosnt last long