Maybe the wrong website for marriage advice but from what I remember if the passion has ebbed away you can't just jump back into the main event. You need to rebuild intimacy, so touching, kissing, foreplay over a period before sex.
Try picking the time too as during the week after work can be...
I don't think you're gay, but you still maybe bi as in somewhere between hetero and gay. I only say that as you have a fantasy of sucking cock.
So what to do next I guess is the question, how would you feel about being with a cross dresser/transvestite? That kind if bridges the gap between...
Porn is addictive and also not real.
I'm not sure about Sauna's and the like. You really want to meet some random guy for the first time and then fuck them? I've never been but it all seems sleazy to me, like sex is expected and that's before STDs.
Better you get to know someone and meet...
So you have a sexual fantasy and enjoy watching porn, like 99.9999% of all men. To answer your question is complex and takes more questions only you can answer:
Do you find women attractive? Does the thought of having sex with women turn you on? Can you imagine french kissing a woman?
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